Who am I? In short, I’m just a girl who's been through some pretty rough obstacles in life and keeps on pushing forward. I won’t bore you with the details, aka, I'm not typing out my life story again. If you’re interested you can listen to my whole story through the link at the bottom of the page, or read a partial version at www.herwellwisher.com
What is my mission? I want to change the world. Crazy right? But if you’re going to take a risk, and get out of your comfort zone why dream small, right?
I want to empower women. I want to use my story to teach them that you can go through anything and still get back on top. I spent my whole life not knowing who I was. At 33, I finally found myself, and I every day I work to become better than yesterday, and I have never been more proud. I want to teach women to ask themselves the tough questions. Who am I? What has happened to make me this person? Am I happy with her? I want you to dig deep, look at your life and see what vices you have, what addictions and coping mechanisms you have and I want you to have the balls to ask why? Why do you do what you do? What voids are you filling? What pain are you covering up? Who are you trying to make happy? And most importantly, what can you do to change?
I want to bring back authenticity. It may sound weird, but if you really think about it, nothing is real anymore. The internet, especially social media, has allowed people to create these perfect little worlds to put on display. Rarely do you see the downs as well as the ups. You see post after post, and interviews and videos and everything is sunshine and butterflies. And then, out of nowhere, there's domestic violence, cheating, bankruptcies, proof of weight loss surgery, eating disorders, or depression. Very few people have their actual real lives on display. But as a society, we have somehow begun to believe these edited snapshots are actual life.
How do we get back to REAL? We start small. With people like me. I am joining the fight. And posting memes and inspirational posts on Instagram will not fix this. People need examples. They need a breath of fresh air….or better yet, a slap in the f*cking face! Like many aspects of life, most people don’t know they are missing something until they have it. Once people get a taste of reality, of unedited, uncensored life it will become something they crave. I will cause waves, I will get hate mail, I will piss people off. And guess what? That’s ok! You don’t have to agree with everything I say, but hopefully I can open your eyes enough to see that the next time you disagree with someone, it doesn’t mean you dislike THEM. A difference of opinion, views and values are what make us human. It makes us unique and different. And sitting down and questioning why you do or do not agree will start your journey to finding who you are. Do you agree because your parents do? Or your friends? Or do you truly agree? Do you disagree because you feel it’s socially acceptable? That you’ll get ridiculed for saying how you really feel? Be authentic. Be bold. Ask why.
Right here, of course! But you can also find me on the following sites:
I will have blogs and/or podcast/radio segments for you guys as often as possible. I also have my personal training site with testimonials and info on how to train with me or receive online coaching. The goal is to have instructional videos to subscribe too by the end of 2018.
Our world has become so Social Media based. So fake. Creating this perfect life for social media at any cost. Our young women are idolizing people in a whole new way. Its not just the musician or actors, its Jill from down the street that slings her fit tea and posts her booty workout and kale salad each day. Or its the girl with a fat ass living in a run down studio apartment with no furniture posting twerk videos and glorifying being a stripper. How has this become #lifegoals??? At least when we were all wishing we could be Gwen Stefani, or Mary J Blige, or Sanaa Lathan, yes we didn't know much about them. But at least they had actual jobs, and made a stand for equality, and empowering women, and sticking together. As women, we are going so far backwards. And you can blame men, and the government, and ‘The Man’, but it has to start with us. And if we are celebrating being sexualized, and proud to being seen as nothing but a body? How will we ever move forward? We must take back control. We must discover who we are and what we are capable of. Women can change the future, but we must first see what is wrong with the present.